Marriage is a huge commitment. Although most people do not feel that marriage is as permanent as it was 50 years ago, it is still a hassle and huge expense to get divorced. Before you get married, it is important to think about why you want to get married, and whether or not you and your potential spouse are on the same page. The more things you can agree on before the marriage, the more likely you will be to stay together for the long haul.
Should I get Married?
The first thing to ask yourself is if you even want to be married. A good way to do this is to make a pros and cons list about your partner and relationship. Be honest, and really consider your flaws and your partner’s flaws. If you do not enter the relationship honestly, then you will have a higher chance of failure. If you are hesitating about the marriage at all, try to identify why. It could be a hidden dealbreaker that is holding you back. If you have to work to convince yourself or your partner to get married, then it is probably not the right choice for you with this person or at this time.
Why Do I Want Marriage?
Many people get married for the wrong reasons. They get married to have children, to have the wedding experience, or possibly for sex. These reasons are not strong enough to maintain a commitment to someone for the rest of your life. Really think about why you might want to be married, and whether those reasons are strong enough to last a lifetime. 50 years of marriage is a long time, and you don’t want to be tethered to someone who you married for the wrong reason.
What is Your Partner’s History?
Do you know your partner’s history and future plans? How did his or her past relationships end? Why did they end? When you learn more about your partner’s past, you learn more about how he or she may act in the future. People can change, but it is less likely that someone will change for the better, especially if they have repeated the same mistakes in the past. Try to find things out like what your partner expects from marriage, how he or she feels about marriage, and what he or she believes a marriage to be. You may be surprised at how different your partner feels about marriage.
Do You Want to Commit?
Try to place as much effort into thinking about the marriage as you do the wedding. Create an agreement with your partner for how you will handle things like children, discipline, money, working, religion, vacations, sex, everyday fights, dealbreaker issues, and as many other things as you can think of. Hopefully, by the time you consider marriage, you already know most of these things about your partner, but it can’t hurt to discuss them again.
More than likely, if you are even reading this article, you have already decided that getting married is the right choice for you. If so, congratulations! Now you just need to focus on finding the perfect details to make your dream wedding a reality. When it comes to music, you can’t go wrong booking a classic band like the Northern Star live wedding band, or some other live band that will play your favorite songs as you dance with your love.